(9/10) Think of the guest's experience as the journey of where they are putting their attention.

Think of the guest’s experience as the journey of where they are putting their attention. 

Nine of ten: Things you need to remember when planning a wedding…the less superficial list. 

Where are their eyes going to go and how long are they going to be there? Where and when should surprises take place? When do guests need to just be and when do they need to be scooped back up into the moment?  

When are the up times and when are the down times? 

Does this crowd know each other? Do we want them to know each other more? Maybe they are content with more time in intimate conversation or maybe they are not. Maybe there is a way to get them to know each other better? Maybe this crowd hates "weddings".

When we can mingle outside our pods, post pandemic, will you seat people with people they don’t know? 

Do we like smaller clusters, covid or not? 

How far to the restroom? Can you move valet to a more convenient location for the end of night? 

The pieces have to line up easily and their attention needs to be captured continually. 

(7/10) People will remember how you made them feel, not how much your wedding was like its supposed to be.

Seven of Ten: Things you need to know when planning a wedding.

People will remember how you made them feel, not how much your wedding was like its ‘supposed to be’.

Seven of ten: Things to remember when planning a wedding...the less superficial list.

This is not to say that the ambiance and decor doesn’t evoke a feeling but impressing people is a very different intention than crafting feeling and experience.

To some degree people will feel how you feel about your wedding. They will enter the same headspace, and sense you wanted to impress and judge the same way you are judging yourself, trying to measure up.

If you are going over-budget or spending so much it makes you uncomfortable or you fear you may feel foolish after the wedding, than you have to take a step back and ask yourselves if it’s worth it.

If the answer is no, and spending what you are spending does not make you uncomfortable and spending ABC is necessary for you both to feel like you’ve created a day that truly expresses yourselves, then spend it! ✨

Less can be more and more can be more, just depends upon the song, and songs make you feel something. [Okay I tried too hard there, just couldn’t make a rhyme]